When stress and fear were at their worst in my life, I am not sure how I got there, but I would reach for pacifiers. Food and alcohol were my “go to’s” for quick and temporary relief.

Now that I am out of the fog, I realize now that I used blame regularly as another huge pacifier.

In that instant of utilizing blame, rather than looking inward, I felt the ease of looking outward to find fault, responsibility and control. While that felt good in the moment, I fell back into the hole I had dug for myself because blame built no traction in my life. Blame is a weak and fragile foundation with which to rebuild my life… but I had learned it well. Finger-pointing is epidemic in our society. Personal responsibility is rare. What I have come to realize is that both of these tactics or reactions create distinctly opposite energies. Blame is quicksand, energetically dark and drains my personal power. Ownership, accountability and love is energetically light, bright and is the current that will light my path as I find and fulfill my calling and purpose. To those I have been tempted to blame, I now send love, good wishes and every joy and blessing that I also seek for myself. No more, no less. That feels so right!

Now when I instinctively reach for blame, I can now laugh as I mindfully and lovingly set it down with appreciation that blame never really served me in the first place and never will.