The relief I experience every time I act from a place of trust and allowing is profound, but it is one of the most difficult self-care concepts to master. When things did not go as I had expected, I fought back, struggled, blamed and resented, which blinded me to possibility.

Shifting from why me to I am where I am for a reason that I do not know yet, but I trust and allow that there is something for me to learn from this experience, still does not always feel natural. Esther Hicks describes it as being on a rapidly moving river and we are in a raft with oars. Our inclination is to control our destiny, even if it is upstream. That fits in nicely to one of the limiting beliefs that I uncovered; “nothing good comes without struggle.” No pain, no gain. What Hicks says is that everything that we want, need, desire is downstream and all we need to do is take our oars out of the water and go with the flow. There is nothing for us upstream. WOW, what a concept! I will reach the place that I am intended to be when I trust, expect and allow this liberating concept of letting go. I have gotten off of the hedonic treadmill that I was on for my whole life where I chased success, only to find when I arrived there that the bar was inexplicably raised. Feelings of frustration and disappointment were the rewards for all of my efforts and sacrifices.

This letting go, trust and allowing has served me in so many ways. In fact, I have accepted that there is no destination other than having a joyful, loving, peaceful, and rewarding journey. I trust that this is where I am intended to flourish! Stay tuned for more of my self-care epiphanies to follow… Hugs, and gratitude!